Daily Readings

November 02

SLAA Daily Reading

Sex & Love Addicts Anonymous

Date
November 02
Theme
PERFECTIONISM
Quote
Two prevailing defects which many of us experienced were perfectionism and pride. Even as we failed to control our petty selfishness or chronic procrastination day after day—were less than “perfect”—we saw that we were learning how to accept progress, rather than perfection! If we could not always be proud of the results of our efforts to change, at least we had earned the right to respect ourselves for the efforts themselves.
Source
S.L.A.A. Basic Text, Page 89
Reflection
I was a competitive gymnast as a child and if I couldn’t get the gold medal every time, I didn’t want to participate. Depression took over and I wouldn’t practice. Most people want to do their best but my perfectionism made me chase after it to the detriment of my sanity. I would try to do everything perfectly and if I fell short I would beat up on myself mercilessly. Progress is slow and steady. Perfectionism is quick and easy, at least in theory. No one really is perfect. It’s an impossible goal to attain. I had to accept that I’m a human being with faults and I will make mistakes. I only get to be perfect in God’s eyes, even with my mistakes. With the help of S.L.A.A., I found the unconditional love that I had always been seeking and realized that I could be me, flaws and all.
Affirmation
I am patient with my progress today, accepting my gifts of imperfection.

Just For Today

Narcotics Anonymous

Date
November 02
Theme
Living with unresolved problems
Quote
"It makes a difference to have friends who care if we hurt."
Source
Basic Text, p. 56
Reflection
For most of our problems, the solution is simple. We call our sponsor, pray, work the steps, or go to a meeting. But what about those situations where the burden is ongoing and there's no end in sight? Most of us know what it's like to live with a painful situation--a problem that just isn't going to disappear. For some of us, the problem is an incurable, life-threatening illness. Some of us have incorrigible children. Some of us find that our earnings simply don't cover our living expenses. Some of us care for a chronically ill friend or family member. Those of us who have ever had to live with an unresolved problem know the relief that comes from just talking about our problem with our recovering friends. We may get some comic relief. Our friends may commiserate or cry in sympathy. Whatever they do, they ease our burden. They may not be able to solve our problem for us or take away our painful feelings, but just knowing that we are loved and cared about makes our problems bearable. We never have to be alone with our pain again.
Affirmation
Those problems I can't resolve can be made bearable by talking to a friend. Today, I will call someone who cares.

Spiritual Principal a Day

Narcotics Anonymous

Date
November 02
Principle
Being Vigilant in the Here and Now
Quote
"We must be willing to do whatever is necessary to recover."
Source
Basic Text, Chapter 9: Just for Today--Living the Program
Reflection
"I always remind myself: Yesterday's recovery won't keep me clean today," a self-described chronic relapser shared as they celebrated a major milestone. "Vigilance--right here, right now--has been key for me," they explained. "I learned the hard way that the real work of recovery is that I have to be willing to do whatever's necessary. And I need to take time to be still and figure out what that is at any given moment." As spiritual principles go, vigilance is kind of a rock star. It's thick with meaning, pairing watchfulness with deliberate action. We start our practice of vigilance simply by paying attention. We level up from basic abstinence to a meaningful recovery when we choose to be active in our program, self-reflective, and flexible, fine-tuning our approach as our personal program evolves. In the beginning, going to lots of meetings and not taking anything between them has the desired effect; a clear head and a bit of hope make for a great start. It's enough to keep us coming back. Listening to other members' stories makes us want more. A member shared, "If I want more out of my program, I've got to put more in." Inspired, we get a sponsor, cultivate a relationship with a Higher Power, and make steady progress through the Steps. As a result, we get more and more comfortable in our own skin. Vigilance helps us to settle into our new way of life, applying what we've learned about spiritual principles in our daily affairs. We make time to reflect and fine-tune our approach as we move through life clean. As we remain watchful, we may notice that our emotional life, our thinking, our physical selves, or spiritual condition will still get out of whack from time to time. That's because we're human and because things change. But life's lessons have revealed a process for navigating through our difficulties, regaining focus, and reconnecting with ourselves, those who care about us, and a Higher Power. ———     ———     ———     ———     ———
Affirmation
I am an addict every day, but today I choose to be a recovering addict. I'm willing to do what's necessary to care for my spiritual condition and stay watchful over my program.